The best man speech is an art-form; rarely perfected and commonly abused. In a way I feel like the best-man has the toughest role in all of the wedding traditions. Every wedding I’ve ever been to, the maid of honor has the easy way out. All she has to do is say something along the lines of,”You’re the best friend anyone could ever ask for and you two are perfect for each other.” Then follow that up with some light sobbing, a few tears, and let the ‘oohhs’ and ‘ahhs’ and ‘she’s so sweet’s’ come rollin’ in.
On the other hand, us dudes don’t have it near as easy! Could you imagine if a best man started crying hysterically in the middle of his speech? Maybe you’ve seen it, I know I sure haven’t. I’m almost certain it wouldn’t go over well. Most guys don’t have the option (or the ability for that matter) to get deeply emotional, unless of course they’ve had a few drinks…which I AM NOT advocating. A drunk best man is by no means a functional best man. No matter how nervous he is a Jack n’ Coke is not the answer…at least when pertaining to weddings. So what do you ?
BE REAL, BE FLATTERING, and most of all BE FUNNY!!!!
It’s as simple as that. Be yourself, don’t let the situation overtake you. Flatter the bride and groom and direct the attention their way, after all it is their special day. To put the cherry on top, throw in some humor. Bring everyone together and lift them out of the tears that the maid of honor left them with.
For example my best man, Matt, took the humor and drove it home with a word for word recital of the “One Man Wolf-pack” speech from the blockbuster comedy The Hangover. If you haven’t seen this it’s a must! It made my family (a bunch of Appalachian party folk) hoop and holler like a bunch of rabid varmint. My wife’s family thought is was fairly amusing and kept asking,”Who is Doug??? Does Chris know a Doug??? Did they really go to Vegas last night???”
All in all, it was a good laugh for everyone. He rounded out his comedic recital with a heartfelt “I love you man” 1-2 punch. In my opinion, the perfect best-man speech ever! As a best man be relaxed and honest, show respect, and exude confidence…no pressure guys…NO PRESSURE!!!